Originally, for my collaborative piece, I had created a Google Form with questions about caring, but I didn’t get a lot of responses. So, following my theme, I decided to make a new Google Form with questions about anger. With this change, I started to think about the connections between what we care about and anger. I found that anger is linked to what we care about. If we didn’t care, why would things evoke such strong responses, like anger, from us?
All the responses are anonymous. The responses that are bolded means they appeared more than once in other people’s responses. At the end of the page is my original collaborative piece with the questions and responses about caring.
Disrespect, lying, hypocrisy, immaturity, ignorance, feeling powerless, injustice, people who text you back immediately and then respond to your response like six hours later, people who make serious promises with no intention of keeping them, inconsistency, being patronized, weak communication because they don’t want to have to deal with whatever it is we’re dealing with together, people being rude to service workers, being mean in general, unfair systematic oppression, cheating, bringing others down to make yourself look better, people who hate pit bulls based on their inaccurate reputation, rape culture, love triangles, when people stop walking and block the path for others on the sidewalk, coronavirus, rude people, family, bullies, inconsiderate people, loud people, America’s ignorance, the cold, when good people do bad things (my disappointment becomes anger), people being mistreated, US government, people who do not listen, people and society, misogyny, fake friends, not asking for consent, being left on open, school, betrayal, not being able to figure out something I know I’m capable of, capitalism, racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, biphobia, bad communication, bad teachers, shitty authorities, pineapple on pizza, manipulation, when people disregard my feelings, white people, being kept waiting, disregard for people’s dignity and the respect owed to their existence, people not cleaning dishes, bad grades, the prison industrial complex, the 1%, judgemental people, arrogance, people who can’t handle rejection, being ghosted, Republicans, Trump, being physically hurt, relationships, money, the police, climate change, societal standards, politics, law, socioeconomics, close-mindedness, self-conceited people, my own repressed trauma, when my best friend doesn’t text me and I know she’s awake, not being able to put thoughts into words for an essay, doing chores, waking up late when I told myself I’d get up early to do my homework, my family starting to make noise as soon as I start my Zoom Meetings, when I see people of higher social class think they’re entitled to disrespect others, pathetic people, men, passive aggressiveness, toxic masculinity, hyper-liberalism and hyper-conservatism, animal and child abusers, jerk toddlers, people that don’t check their privilege, professors adding assignments, small things make me angry, Black Republicans, not getting enough sleep, people not muting their mics on Zoom, xenophobia, my parents don’t understand me, uncompassionate people, when people don’t respect mine or other people’s boundaries, people talking about each other, leaving garbage in someone else’s work space, people questioning me.
Walk away, listen to music, call my sister, take a nap, reflect and talk to myself, watch Netflix, confronting the issue (sometimes because I don’t like conflict), try to talk it out or put it into action but not successfully enough, if someone is not being good at communicating with me, i either completely stop initiating contact with them or continue to persistently push them to be more consistent. in terms of making promises, i dont really deal with my anger as a response to those people or rarely i will confront them about it. i don’t deal with my anger when being patronized, but with inconsistency i do tend to just present my example of good consistency to show up the other person, journaling, running, crying, talking with friends, playing music, sometimes I don’t deal with it very well like internalizing, praying, being by myself, I don’t really deal with the source of my anger but rather treat the symptoms by doing things that make me happy like eating/music/watching TV, don’t deal with it at all, screaming into pillows, try to take a deep breath, speak out on it, talk about it with my girlfriend and my therapist, talk to my family, talk about my frustrations with people I am close with, I sometimes tell someone that they made me angry in hopes of an apology and if they don’t give one I usually get angrier, I ignore white people, I suppress and wash it off, I get very irritable, workout, I try to focus on other stuff, I avoid the situations, sympathize with others, sports, I look how uneducated people are, baths, hugging my dog, yelling, finding a distraction, I wait until it subsides, I am very violent, I drink, I talk shit, distractions, ignore it, meditation, drawing, doing work, laughing, taking walks, taking bike rides, I find ways to solve those issues at least on a small scale, aggression, smoking weed, writing down what the issue is and see if I can solve it.
Talking to someone, probably confronting the issue, use it to make a productive change where possible (big or small), choosing the way you react to anger, using creative/physical outlets can help to get aggression out, as long as you don’t project it on someone else or let it control your actions, exercising, journaling, talk it out, understanding the issue, time, find the source of the anger and either take action to stop the source or make peace with it if it’s something that is out of your control, meditation, self-isolation, not bottling it up and trying to express your emotions, step away from the situation, letting it out in a safe and healthy way, wait for a bit until the initial anger has subsided, good communication, distractions, therapy, communication with people who are actually willing to listen, I don’t know, don’t make any harsh decisions that would negatively affect your life or the lives of others, let yourself feel it and then move on, focusing on the positive, music, it’s different for everyone, using a safe outlet to calm down, channeling that angry energy into something positive, pray, accept it for what it is and try to either fix the problem or try to exist away from it, to try to change what makes me angry if possible, breathing deeply, smoking weed.
Yes – it is because it is a result of the ability to feel and respond to certain situations. Some ppl are numb so if anger is the result of something I’m grateful because it’s a feeling at least; it helps you learn more about yourself and help you grow as a person; it can motivate people depends on the circumstance. but sometimes ppl don’t know how to deal with their anger so it depends; it can be a good and bad motivator; it allows people to confront emotions or feelings about things they might not have known they had; people need to feel anger and release their anger. Anger is only healthy when it is released because people are meant to show and express their emotions. Anger shows that people care; can be used as a catalyst for a change that you previously didn’t have enough motivation to start; it can motivate people to do very bad things like kill people, but can also motive someone to change their life; it can be effective if one uses it to motivate/better themself; people change things because they don’t like something and they get angry at it. If people had no anger the world wouldn’t change; it’s an emotion so it’s definitely valid;i believe anger can be very effective as a driver of actions. But because these actions are typically unproductive/bad i hesitate to say that; it helps to put things in perspective to figure out a way to avoid future complications and let-downs;it moves people to advocate for change, but too much anger motivates people to do bad things; I think it can be. It fuels me sometimes, gives me drive. It makes me want to change things and make them better; I think it often motivates people to make impulsive decisions such as saying or doing things they might regret. I think it usually motivates people in a bad way because of this; It’s something essential for survival and makes you human. I think it’s a good emotion but the way that it is channeled can be bad; it can be blinding;I feel as though anger is an effective emotion depending on how it is applied.
No – I think it limits you. However I think anger could be a good starting place but you have to hone in on it and take out the logic then run with that. Acting on anger alone doesn’t seem to ever turn out well; I think anger is when you let your emotion consume you, I think it is best to remain composed; it’s okay to feel it but better to keep just keep it at frustration for mental health;No anger can be effective but generally it is an unproductive emotion.
Other – I suppose so; It’s neither effective nor ineffective. It’s a natural reaction. The effective part of it is recognizing triggers and knowing how to deal with issues; i think anger can motivate people in both good and bad ways; No and yes.
My friends, my contributions to society, my own intellectual/spiritual development
being kind in little ways- saying hello, opening the door, compliments
No, they don’t care
uncover unfair policies within local communities as much as possible (racism in systemic policies, sexism), and presenting pain in perpetrating and experiencing injustice